The Grass Is Greener Syndrome

The Diary Of A Single Gay Man (Blog #3)

It's a jungle out there!  We all have heard this statement, we all have used it, but do we all really BELIEVE IT?  In a world where people's attention spans cannot extend past a 15 second preview before they are onto the next thing, it's getting harder and harder to keep the attention of the same and opposite sex.  Along the same lines is a syndrome, one of which i believe i have coined the term on: The Grass Is Greener Syndrome.  What do pray tell is this aforementioned syndrome?  Simply put, it is when you meet someone and they feed you line after line after line as to how you are special...you just might be the one...how could they have gone this long in life without you?....BUT they just don't wanna be tied down right now!  Then within a few days you find out not only are they talking to you but three other people in your friendship/acquaintance circle.  The conversations start to slow to a a few word crawl and then POOF!....They vanish! Onto the next thing that could be better....might be better....wouldn't know unless they tried better....

We are left questioning ourselves: Where did I go wrong????  What did I do?  Why did this happen....

                                              THE GRASS IS GREENER SYNDROME

Most recently this syndrome was diagnosed on someone who I was talking with steadily for a few months....we were finding out everything about each other, getting those butterflies, sending each other cute flirty messages....and then suddenly out of nowhere I get the text:  "I'm really happy that we are getting to know one another but I don't want to lead you on...I'm just not in a space where I feel like I want to be serious."  REALLY????  This after I was told, I haven't  felt this way in so long....I think you may be the one...I can't wait for the day we can be together....but all those thoughts go flying out the window....and then POOF!  Vanished...no calls, no texts, no nothing....but on social media outlets there they are flirting and talking to others and lining them up like I was being lined up....

My questions is this:  How can you be dismissed  when there was no physical meeting???? Are we wrong to think we feel connections with people through phone calls, messages and instant messages?  Or is it just easier to pretend and then dip off like nothing even existed?   Where is the accountability or is there none?

Then after a few short weeks maybe even a month later...you're phone goes off and there it is....a message from THEM....asking how you've been...saying how much the missed you...asking if you could find it in your heart to give them a second chance....

We are faced with a choice:  Forgive and forget and try to rekindle it....or tell them to HIT THE ROAD because there is a little voice saying "If they left you once they'll leave you for someone else again!"....I like to choose option "B"....We all have to understand what our WORTH is and we have to understand not to stand for the BULLSHIT other put us through to try and bankrupt us of that worth!  Chalk it up to their loss...tell yourself you're worth more....just don't look back ALWAYS LOOK FOWARD!!!!!

Don't beat yourself up if you buckle...it happens...but make sure to not make the same mistake twice!  If you decide to go with option "A", YOU hold the cards...YOU make the rules and YOU call the shots!

Remember the signs and remember YOUR WORTH and don't fall victim to....The Grass Is Greener Syndrome because when it comes to love...nothing is better then YOU....and anyone who cannot recognize that, wasn't worth investing in from the get go!

Till The Next Time!

xoxo- Ron "The Single Gay Man"